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Intimate Details with Dr. Tiff
Day 19 of TOW: Unlocking the Power of Forgiveness
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Ever wondered how a simple act of forgiveness could transform your life? Join us in releasig the burdens that weigh you down by writing a letter of forgiveness—a letter that might never be sent but will absolutely set you free. Whether it’s forgiving a parent, a friend, a former partner, or even yourself, this exercise is your key to unlocking personal growth and moving forward.
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Hello, hello, this is Dr Tiffanie Davis Henry, and you are listening to Intimate Details with Dr Tiff. It is Day 19 of The ONE Within 30-Day Journaling Challenge. I want to call it a self-care challenge. So bad which leads me to believe that at some point, if you know, you know, we will be going back to a self-care challenge. That's not necessarily what. Well, this is self-care. I feel like this. What we are doing right now is self-care. So if we want to call it that, we can call it that, but it is the one within. Okay, we are finding the one within, we are becoming the one, all of that through this challenge.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:It is day 19, people, which means we have, is that 11 days? We've got 11 days after today? Oh, I can't believe it. We've made it 19 days strong for me, 20 days doing a podcast episode for you guys, which is unheard of, unheard of. But here we are, we here, we are All right.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:Day 19. Um, I've been having y'all do some writing here, buddy, buddy, and I did not think we were going to be doing this much. Um, yeah, I did, I designed it. Of course, I knew that, all right, so, anyway, you'd act like I mean. It's so funny because I say that and I'm like you absolutely knew that, you did that, you did this, you did this to them. Anyway, all right, day 19 is a forgiveness exercise.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:I don't know how we get through all of these days without getting to a point where we can forgive. We have to. That's the only way Forgiveness is how we move forward. Saying where it's like forgiveness is not for the other person is for you, I think it's. I feel like forgiveness is for everyone, but I definitely feel, like you know, we have to forgive ourselves for the things that we've done, that we did not know when. We did not know any better when, like as an adult or as someone who's been through some things. Like you know, hindsight is always going to be 2020. And sometimes we live in a state of regret, of guilt, of shame, of sadness, when, if we could give ourselves permission to forgive ourselves, we'd be better able to move forward.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:So, on day 19, we are doing a forgiveness exercise. The prompt is who do you need to forgive, including yourself, in order to move forward? Write a letter of forgiveness, even if you have no intention of ever sending it. All right, who do you need to forgive, including yourself, to move forward. Write a letter of forgiveness, even if you have no intention of ever sending it. This is important. The exercise of writing this letter is super, super critical. It is important, it is imperative to your growth and your transformation. This letter could be to a parent.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:A lot of us are burdened by things that we saw, things that we experienced in our childhood, things that we can never forget. But just because you can never forget those things and it doesn't have to be apparent it's just the first thing that came to mind. But even if you can't forget certain things that happened in your life and I don't think we need to forget everything you know everything bad that happens to us. When we forget some of those things, we are destined to repeat those things. Of those things, we are destined to repeat those things. So it's not always necessary that we forget every chapter of our story. What is important is that we learn from every chapter in our story, that we take the lessons, we honor them, honor those lessons and you know we live based on the knowledge that we have having gone through those things right. So, with that in mind, we recall, we remember those things, but we don't allow ourselves to be stuck there, and sometimes our stuckness is because we haven't either let go and the people that are on this challenge, that have joined the challenge and have done the lay it down and let it go. You know what I'm talking about. You've laid it down, you've let it go, you've moved on.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:The hardest part for some of us is going to be the forgiveness. The forgiveness that's the true lay it down, let it go is the forgiveness portion of it. I forgive you for hurting me. I forgive you for doing what you did. I forgive you for not doing what you should have done. I forgive you for treating me, our situation, our relationship in this way. I forgive myself for not being honest. I forgive myself for not showing up in a way that I should have. I forgive myself for not being the person that I should have been for you.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:Whomever you need to forgive, whether it's yourself, whether it's a former partner, whether it's a parent like I said, a friend. Maybe you did someone wrong in relationship and you need to forgive them. I want you to take the time today, take the five minutes, really, think about someone in your life that you know deep down. You need to just forgive In order to move on, you need to just forgive it and let it go. And if you need to go back to the meditation from day 15, if you're part of the challenge, if you need to go back to lay it down and let it go in order to get through today's exercise, go ahead and do that. That's why it's there After you've done the meditation.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:If you need to go ahead and write a letter of forgiveness, and if you can't think of someone, perhaps you need to forgive yourself, write that letter. It doesn't matter to me, I ain't gonna know. It doesn't matter to me whether you send the letter or read it to the person or let them know that you wrote it or let them know that you forgive them. This is about your heart, your healing, your growth. Ok, you need to forgive this person. Whether or not that person needs you to forgive them, that's their business. I'm not here for that. Okay, I'm here for you.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:You need to forgive, so I want you to look deep down, dig deep, dig deep. Y'all should be used to that by now. Dig deep and figure out what you are holding on to, what you're harboring that you really do need to let go of and whom you need to forgive, even if the person that you need to forgive is yourself. Okay, even if the person that you need to forgive is no longer with us. It's amazing how we hold on to things from people who are no longer in our lives, who no longer are even living, and we still haven't forgiven. We're still because the forgiveness piece is you're holding on to something that is impacting an emotion. Holding on to something that is impacting an emotion, a feeling, a pain that is impacting the way in which you move within and throughout this world, and that person that did the thing right either is nowhere near you, no longer in your life, no longer in your orbit, maybe even no longer of this earth. They're dead and gone, but you're still hanging on. You got to let it go. Today is the day. Today is the day that we forgive, not for them, but for us.
Dr. Tiffanie Henry:Deep breath, guys. You can do it. You can do it. You can do it as hard as it is, as much as you want to just gnaw on that bone. Okay, I'm asking you to let it go. Let that bone go. It's over. We letting it go today. Forgiveness, forgiveness. This is for you, all right, that's day 19. I'll see you tomorrow on day 20. Bye.
